Stay involved after your baby is born
- Room with your family at the hospital. If the hospital and your work schedule allow, stay with your partner and newborn until it's time to take the baby home. This will help you feel less like a bystander and more like a key participant in the first few days of your baby's life.
- Take turns caring for the baby. Take turns feeding and changing the baby. If your partner is breast-feeding, offer to bottle-feed pumped breast milk — or burp the baby and put him or her to sleep after breast-feeding sessions.
- Play with the baby. While women tend to provide low-key, soothing stimulation for their babies, men often engage their babies in noisier, more vigorous activities. Both styles of play are important, and seeing your newborn smile is its own reward.
- Be affectionate with your partner. Just because sex is off-limits temporarily doesn't mean you and your partner can't cuddle or kiss. Keep in mind that eventually your family will develop a routine and you and your partner will have some time to yourselves again.
- Talk to your partner. Continue talking to your partner about the changes you're experiencing and what you can do to support each other as your baby gets older.
- Seek help. If you're having trouble dealing with changes in your relationship or you think you may be depressed, talk to a counselor or other mental health professional.